So Pregnant in Heels Season 2 has kicked off with some controversial topics. From home birth to placenta eating, elimination communication and pregnancy Kama Sutra, I certainly have everything covered in this season it’s crazy town!
I am also pregnant during this season (though I had our baby girl Vivienne Madison Pope on Sunday May 13) and while I may not request placenta smoothies, I have to admit I had the same anxiety as the rest of my clients. We all want to be the best parents we can be and sometimes this anxiety makes us do or request crazy things.
The important thing for me is to guide my clients towards the goal of being prepared for their new wee one and for me to remember that this is all normal and the crazy requests are all based in wanting to be better parents. This season it has been a challenge for me to keep priorities straight and laugh along the way at the crazy whims, while keeping them focused and on track.
I’d love to know your thoughts about some of the hot button topics coming up on this season so for this blog I have done a quick summary of the topics from episode 1 and my thoughts on them and then I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you passionately agree or disagree with me, I want to know. You can reply here or on Facebook or
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- HOME BIRTH – It is my belief that with a healthy pregnancy a woman should have the right to choose the type of birth she wants. She must embrace however, that things do not always go according to plan and so in the United States having access to medical intervention and care is a very fortunate bonus. Which makes me wonder, with the options of birthing centers and hospitals, why choose a home birth knowing the risks involved? I know this is an exceedingly heated topic and I agree that in some countries home birth is almost certainly a better option but in America it always comes down for me to one thing; if something goes wrong wouldn’t you rather be around medical professionals that can help save your baby?
- PLACENTA EATING – There are many interesting theories and traditions that have surrounded placentas over different cultures. The current trend in the United States is based on the theory that eating your own placenta may ward off postpartum depression and if saved until that time in your life may help ease one through menopause. I think these arguments are fascinating but the lack of scientific research to support it makes it hard for me to jump on the placenta eating band wagon. I do however, think we should push for more research to be done on the gazillions of placentas discarded in the US each day and get to the bottom of this once and for all!
- ELMINATION COMMUNICATION (EC) – Attachment parenting truly taken to the extreme. EC requires that we are with our children at all times to be able to read subtle signals that they need to use the bathroom from birth (that’s right, years before potty training is normally recommended). This is necessary in some cultures where diapers are unavailable and unaffordable and life is mainly lived outside and the babies are strapped to their mothers. Barring out of financial necessity, with the many environmentally friendly options today I really can’t understand why anyone in the US would think the better option would be for your baby to go diaperless and the parent obsessively figure out when they need to eliminate. Can you imagine hovering over your baby while he/she sleeps and then having to wake to hold them over a toilet?!
- PREGNANCY KAMA SUTRA – I know, not necessarily a topic for most of the pregnant ladies I meet. But it is possible to have an extremely heightened sex drive when you are pregnant. It is also quite possible for the reverse to happen. What I find interesting about this topic is more about intimacy in general and the importance it plays in a relationship. And how hard it can be to maintain intimacy while pregnant and after the baby is born. For many couples if they lose intimacy their relationship can start to unfold but it is also unreasonable to think it won’t change. (Especially when you are a gazillion weeks pregnant, on bed rest etc…). I’m fascinated by how men and women keep the communication going with their partners so it doesn’t become an issue. How do you keep that spark alive, do tell?
x – Rosie